In the particular is contained the universal.
{James Joyce}
When you achieve a significant developmental milestone, you own it forever.
Once you learn to walk, there’s no going back to crawling.
Learn how to ride a bike? You’ll always know how.
Great study habits? Always applicable to the next tough class.
How about hard conversations? Or setting boundaries? Or standing up for yourself? Or trying new things? Or managing anger? Or exercising patience? Or being vulnerable?
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes and yes.
Once you learn it, you’ve got it. It’s the joyful, extraordinary truth of development.
Until you have it, however, you won’t have it. And you will keep crawling, just as before.
This moment, with this person (and it’s usually another person who challenges and sparks our most needed development) is your present, particular opportunity to make a universal change.
