If you are experiencing difficulty connecting with your colleagues in a meaningful way, it’s possible that you are leading with your competence.
It’s possible that your investment in looking like you know what you’re doing is getting in the way of your being in relationship with the people who can help you do what you need to do.
I was once called “arrogant” after three weeks on the job because I couldn’t stop proving my “competence.”
I was competent. And I was the only one who didn’t think so.
DAVID BERRY is the author of “A More Daring Life: Finding Voice at the Crossroads of Change” and the founder of RULE13 Learning. He speaks and writes about the complexity of leading in a changing world.