Your resistance to change makes perfect sense. When the way that you organize the world is called into question or is threatened in some way, why would you let that go without a fight?
It only makes sense to ask, “If I let go of this, what will I have left…what will I replace it with?”
And if there’s no satisfactory answer, why should there be any change? (Humans being human, even when there is a satisfactory answer there is still resistance to and outright refusal to change. Alas, we keep up the fight.)
Absent a vision of the future to live into we are prone to remain in the less productive/healthy/meaningful/functional present. Because it is what we know.
So, please don’t get busy changing. And by all means don’t get busy telling people to change.
Instead, get busy – creatively, lovingly, purposefully busy – designing and defining a preferred future. Give yourself, your team, your family, something to aspire to.
DAVID BERRY is the author of “A More Daring Life: Finding Voice at the Crossroads of Change” and the founder of RULE13 Learning. He speaks and writes about the complexity of leading in a changing world. Connect with him on Twitter at @berrydavid.