What do you mean, it’s over?

Didn’t we just get here?

Well, yes, but there’s been a lot going on.

It just seems too soon.

Yeah, to me too. But this is it.

I gotta tell you, I just don’t feel ready for what’s next.

I know, it’s hard to feel ready when things are moving so fast.

I really mean it, I’m not ready.

I understand. It’s hard to go from knowing to doing, but this really is the time and we’ve got to go.

I wish I felt better, like I knew what was going to happen.

Someone once told me, “If you’re ready, you’ve waited too long.” I didn’t like it when I heard it but I realized that the thing that keeps me from acting isn’t my lack of ability but my negative opinion about my ability. Anyway, the clock is ticking…

Ok, then…how do I start?

Oh, that’s the best part: you say “thank you” to what’s been and “yes” to what’s to come.

I can do that.

I know you can.

Thank you.

Yes.


DAVID BERRY is the author of “A More Daring Life: Finding Voice at the Crossroads of Change” and the founder of RULE13 Learning. He speaks and writes about the complexity of leading in a changing world.

 

12 Words

We celebrated a life today. It was a remembrance worthy of the life she lived. It was whole, real, fully formed and fully experienced. It was gut wrenching.

A father was humble. Sons were true. Sisters were emphatic. A niece was clear, and brave: “I was better when I was with her.”

When we honor the dead it is easy to forget that they needed us as much as we needed them. I know that she would be first in line to proclaim that as true.

I couldn’t stop thinking about these five statements, these twelve words.

I love you. “You saw me, heard me and understood me. You made me something I didn’t know I could be. My heart is broken and it will keep on breaking. And I will go on.”

Please forgive me. “I hurt you. I could have done more. I’m sorry.”

I forgive you. “You were human. You did your best. And you were human.”

Thank you. “You changed everything for me. You made a difference. You mattered. You always will.”

Goodbye. “I will never forget you. Impossible. Never.”

{For Paul}


DAVID BERRY is the author of “A More Daring Life: Finding Voice at the Crossroads of Change” and the founder of RULE13 Learning. He speaks and writes about the complexity of leading in a changing world. Connect with him on Twitter at @berrydavid.