Pay More Attention

If you pay attention, you’ll notice that people are usually talking about themselves. It’s both comforting and disconcerting that the human condition is to be self-referential.

It’s comforting because it reminds us that we are not alone in experiencing the world from the three-foot radius that surrounds our body. It’s disconcerting because we like to believe that we are objective about our expressed perspectives.

We are not, at least not that often.

So, we should pay more attention to what we say and to what others say. We might become a bit more humble and a bit more empathetic by doing so.


DAVID BERRY is the author of “A More Daring Life: Finding Voice at the Crossroads of Change” and the founder of RULE13 Learning. He speaks and writes about the complexity of leading in a changing world.

They Didn’t Hear You

That time you made the big announcement about the big change?

They didn’t hear you.

That time you introduced the new approach to the new opportunity?

They didn’t hear you.

That time you made it clear that the thing that went wrong wouldn’t go wrong again?

They didn’t hear you.

Everything – EVERYTHING – must pass through the filter of “what’s in it for me.” That’s why you have to say it again.

And again. And again. And again.

Stick with it. They will hear you.

Soon, they will hear you.


DAVID BERRY is the author of “A More Daring Life: Finding Voice at the Crossroads of Change” and the founder of RULE13 Learning. He speaks and writes about the complexity of leading in a changing world.