Ambivalence

Pinned to my bulletin board is a card received from a friend during a professional transition that significantly impacted us both. She wrote:

“Here’s to the next chapter! I say it with a pit in my stomach and eyes forward to the new.”

To acknowledge our discomfort with change while holding onto our belief in the possibility of what’s to come seems like a good description of maturity.

The last of the finches fledged on our patio has flown the nest. I will miss the daily, sometimes hourly, opportunity to see them grow before my eyes. I am also glad they’re gone.

DAVID BERRY is the author of “A More Daring Life: Finding Voice at the Crossroads of Change” and the founder of RULE13 Learning. He speaks and writes about the complexity of leading in a changing world.

What Is

Once you work through your expectations, your idealism and your fantasies of what will be you are left with what is.

And how you bridge the gap between your perceptions of what could be and the reality of what is determines the quality and stability of your relationships, especially the one with yourself.

The finches born in the nest on our patio are now in adolescence and ready – if not exactly willing – to fly. Mom and dad come to the nest to cajole them out and then fly away to a nearby tree as if to say: “See, it’s just to here. You can do it. Come join me!”

It’s essential to have high expectations.

Just don’t forget to start by meeting them where they are.

DAVID BERRY is the author of “A More Daring Life: Finding Voice at the Crossroads of Change” and the founder of RULE13 Learning. He speaks and writes about the complexity of leading in a changing world.