How You Do Life

“Sometimes you have to change how you do life.”
– Alexis Eader

The simple truth is that we are all prisoners of a many-millions-of-years-old limbic system, the sole job of which is to ensure our survival.

Its primary strategy for achieving this is to convince us to stick with what we know. And doing that is easy because the known is so much more comfortable than the unknown.

So, once in a while, when we are at our best, and if we really want to change, we have to decide that we are bigger and stronger than our cerebral inheritance and do something about it.

We have to act against our deep and ancient longing to stick with what we know and make a change anyway.

It’s what separates us from our history. It’s what makes us who we are.

{HT to AE}

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How Many Times Have You Died?

“I don’t know exactly what happened to me after that car accident when my blood pressure dropped precipitously low, and in the end, I realized that it didn’t matter. I didn’t need to solve it or explain it. Maybe I died, maybe I didn’t.

I just don’t know.

What I do know for sure is that I have died many times is this life. As a lost and helpless boy, I died in a magic shop. The young man who was both ashamed and terrified of his father, the one who had struck him and got his blood on his hands, died the day he went off to college. And although I didn’t know it at the time of my accident, eventually the arrogant, egotistical neurosurgeon I would become would also suffer his own death. We can die a thousand times in this lifetime, and that is one of the greatest gifts of being alive. That night what died in me was the belief that Ruth’s magic had made me invincible and the belief that I was alone in the world.”

– from Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon’s Quest to Discover the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart by James R. Doty.

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