What Is

Once you work through your expectations, your idealism and your fantasies of what will be you are left with what is.

And how you bridge the gap between your perceptions of what could be and the reality of what is determines the quality and stability of your relationships, especially the one with yourself.

The finches born in the nest on our patio are now in adolescence and ready – if not exactly willing – to fly. Mom and dad come to the nest to cajole them out and then fly away to a nearby tree as if to say: “See, it’s just to here. You can do it. Come join me!”

It’s essential to have high expectations.

Just don’t forget to start by meeting them where they are.

DAVID BERRY is the author of “A More Daring Life: Finding Voice at the Crossroads of Change” and the founder of RULE13 Learning. He speaks and writes about the complexity of leading in a changing world.

A living organism has the capacity to grow

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That includes you and me, of course.

Today’s good.

Tomorrow’s good, too.

But today is better.

It’s summer.

Most everything is in bloom.

Birds have hatched their little ones in a nest on our patio. Back and forth go mom and dad, ferrying food to their offspring. We spied on them when they were still enclosed in blue speckled eggs. Now they are scrawny, hungry and noisy. That’s what growing looks like. What it sounds like.

You start small. The odds are against you. Some people help you. You try some more.

And then one day…one day you are a step closer.

Tomorrow’s good, too.

But today is better.

DAVID BERRY is the author of “A More Daring Life: Finding Voice at the Crossroads of Change” and the founder of RULE13 Learning. He speaks and writes about the complexity of leading in a changing world.